Do I Need to Become More Interpersonally Effective?

Posted by Keren Clark, LMFT in Benefits of DBT


One of the four modules in DBT Skills Training is Interpersonal Effectiveness. For me, during my DBT Intensive Training in 2003/2004, the skills in Marsha Linehan’s model of Interpersonal Effectiveness blew me away. Her way of introducing and then weaving together the various aspects of how to most effectively interact with our objectives, others in our lives and ourselves, is revolutionary. I assert that we all have gaps in our skills in this area and we can all benefit from learning more about Interpersonal Effectiveness. 

The Power of Mindfulness

Posted by Ashley in Mindfulness


Yesterday in our Intensive Outpatient Program, Kathy Purdy MFTI, led a mindfulness practice with group members. Kathy, who has had many years of training in yoga and meditation practice, took the group on a mindfulness walk, inviting them to notice their surroundings and to focus on the ‘spaces in-between’. One group member wrote the following poem about her experience. Our DBT team is extremely touched by this beautiful and insightful writing and wanted to share it with you.  

Mindfulness Practices: Short, Simple and Sweet

Posted by Keren Clark, LMFT in Mindfulness


The first skills learned in DBT skills training those of mindfulness. In DBT we actually refer to them as skills to “learn to take hold of our minds”. The skills taught in the modules that follow are based upon or require some facility with mindfulness, with being able to take hold or our minds, to be used effectively. To that end, we would like to offer a small primer on some short, simple and sweet mindfulness practices.  

What the Heck is DBT by Dr. Esme Shaller UCSF

Posted by DBT Center of Orange County in Benefits of DBT

How to Get to Wise Mind

Posted by Dr. Michele Lob PsyD., MFT, CEDS in Mindfulness


We are shaped by our thoughts; We become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.

 I was thinking about Dialectical Behavior Therapy the other day and how it has changed my life! With roots in Zen philosophy and behavioral theory, my practice of DBT has changed my relationship with myself, others, and the way I view the world. I used to be an emotionally reactive person who functioned primarily in what we DBT’ers refer to as Emotion Mind. This is when you allow everything to ‘get to you’. People who love you tell you that you are too sensitive; too reactive! I came to realize that this way of being in the world does not make for a happy, balanced, and peaceful life. I used to function on hypervigilance, hypersensitivity, and reactivity. 

The Gift of Self-Centeredness

Posted by DBT Center of Orange County in Benefits of DBT


In DBT we talk about Mindfulness and Interpersonal Effectiveness, and somehow my head got caught up in the following conversation with a patient the other day:Is there a difference between selfishness and self-centeredness? The patient was struggling to say “No” to a friend for fear of being considered ‘selfish’.   The patient said, “I really struggle with people who are selfish! I never want to be perceived as a selfish person.” Somehow, the conversation turned to a discussion about selfishness versus self-centeredness. I asked the patient if the two concepts meant the same to them. The patient paused for a while and responded, “It feels as if there is a difference but I’m not quite sure about it.”  

High-Conflict Couple

Posted by DBT Center of Orange County in Benefits of DBT, Family Therapy


The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.