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“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” – Carl RogersIn my DBT practice, I come across many couples who feel that they are in joyless and unfulfilling marriages. Conversations in my office may revolve around complaints about lack of intimacy, ‘falling out of love’; not enough change, poor understanding of the others’ needs, and/or the other doing deliberate acts to cause marital conflict and continued unhappiness. The joy of thinking that they have found ‘The One’ is replaced by questions like, “What was I thinking?”, “I should have known better” and “Why did I marry you?”.
Posted by Dr. Michele Lob PsyD., MFT, CEDS in DBT Skills
As 2018 comes to a close, I look back on the passed year with its challenges, triumphs, disappointments, and celebrations, and feel called to write about one of my most favorite DBT skills - that of Radical Acceptance. Radical Acceptance does not allow for regret or self-flagellation. It allows for complete and utter acceptance that what has gone has gone, what is done, is done, what is, is! Radical Acceptance allows for an internal place in both mind and body to be completely in acceptance of reality.
If I had a dime for every time I heard a newscaster talk about mass shootings and mental illness, especially in news-in-review roundups, I would be rich. Enough already. Only 4% of those with mental illness become violent, which is the same rate[namimc.org] as those who are mentally sound. The bigger problem with mental illness is that we treat those who are sick as if they are outcasts and potential mass killers, which only makes the problem worse.
Before it Happens Again Part I: How To Address Mass Shootings In 2019 and Beyond Using Dialectical Behavioral Therapy – Radical Acceptance
During a check-in and de-briefing with my Pepperdine University students about the recent violent shooting in Thousand Oaks, CA one Master’s level student glibly remarked, “It’s just going to happen again. I’m not even surprised by it anymore, it’s sad to say but I think it’s just trending.” While I didn’t like his words, I knew he was right... in all the wrong, worst ways.
The Holiday Season is upon us – this year it seems to have come far too soon. Several of my friends are putting up their holiday decorations BEFORE Thanksgiving and I heard Christmas music on my car radio today – with still 6 weeks to go until Christmas Day.
We at DBTOC believe self-care is vital to our well-being. When we don’t take care of ourselves we can feel exhausted, depleted and resentful. On the other hand, when we are practicing self-care, we tend to have more energy, feel better, think more clearly and make steps to accomplish our goals and live a life aligned with our values.Our team has been revamping our personal self-care routines and learning new ways to support each other’s wellness. We attended a workshop to be curious about our current self-care practices and brainstorm ways to improve our regimens. We attended a yoga class as a team. We want to now share with you some of our team’s self-care tips!
With it being Suicide Prevention Month, I believe depression is an important topic to discuss. The CDC states suicide is a leading cause of death in the U.S. According to the American Foundation of Suicide Prevention (2016) 9th through 12th graders report that 17% seriously considered suicide, 13.6% made a plan for how to commit suicide, 8% attempted suicide and 2.7% made suicide attempts requiring medical attention. Sometimes an adolescent’s struggle with depression can be underestimated because of their age. Adolescence is a time when changing hormones can cause mood swings and it is often difficult to tell what is normal adolescent behavior and when a teen is clinically depressed.Your Teen May Be Depressed if They:
Posted by DBT Center of Orange County in Awareness
September is National Suicide Prevention Month. All month, mental health advocates, prevention organizations, survivors, allies, and community members unite to promote suicide prevention awareness. With World Suicide Prevention Day on September 10th. It’s a time to remember those affected by suicide, to raise awareness, and to focus efforts on directing treatment to those who need it most. So how can you get involved?
Posted by Dr. Michele Lob PsyD., MFT, CEDS in Benefits of DBT
Did you know that there is a Dialectical Behavior Therapy curriculum specific to targeting Substance Abuse? DBT-SUD adds new principles, strategies, and protocols to address addiction and has numerous Random Clinical Trials (RCT’s) in support of its effectiveness.