DBT OC Blog
Mindfulness is the foundation of all of the DBT skills. As we practice mindfulness, we intentionally bring ourselves into the present moment and notice what is in the here-and-now. These skills are especially helpful to notice our emotions, sensations, thoughts and needs. Mindful eating can help reduce disordered eating and increase balanced, healthy practices. However, reducing disordered eating does not stop here. We must develop mindful habits around our eating behaviors as well. It is important to pay attention to our habits and our automatic response to internal cues and our environment.
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” – Carl RogersIn my DBT practice, I come across many couples who feel that they are in joyless and unfulfilling marriages. Conversations in my office may revolve around complaints about lack of intimacy, ‘falling out of love’; not enough change, poor understanding of the others’ needs, and/or the other doing deliberate acts to cause marital conflict and continued unhappiness. The joy of thinking that they have found ‘The One’ is replaced by questions like, “What was I thinking?”, “I should have known better” and “Why did I marry you?”.
Posted by Dr. Michele Lob PsyD., MFT, CEDS in DBT Skills
As 2018 comes to a close, I look back on the passed year with its challenges, triumphs, disappointments, and celebrations, and feel called to write about one of my most favorite DBT skills - that of Radical Acceptance. Radical Acceptance does not allow for regret or self-flagellation. It allows for complete and utter acceptance that what has gone has gone, what is done, is done, what is, is! Radical Acceptance allows for an internal place in both mind and body to be completely in acceptance of reality.
If I had a dime for every time I heard a newscaster talk about mass shootings and mental illness, especially in news-in-review roundups, I would be rich. Enough already. Only 4% of those with mental illness become violent, which is the same rate[namimc.org] as those who are mentally sound. The bigger problem with mental illness is that we treat those who are sick as if they are outcasts and potential mass killers, which only makes the problem worse.
Before it Happens Again Part I: How To Address Mass Shootings In 2019 and Beyond Using Dialectical Behavioral Therapy – Radical Acceptance
During a check-in and de-briefing with my Pepperdine University students about the recent violent shooting in Thousand Oaks, CA one Master’s level student glibly remarked, “It’s just going to happen again. I’m not even surprised by it anymore, it’s sad to say but I think it’s just trending.” While I didn’t like his words, I knew he was right... in all the wrong, worst ways.
The Holiday Season is upon us – this year it seems to have come far too soon. Several of my friends are putting up their holiday decorations BEFORE Thanksgiving and I heard Christmas music on my car radio today – with still 6 weeks to go until Christmas Day.