DBT OC Blog
Posted by Carolyn Huckabay LCSW in News
I recently watched The Greatest Showman and listened to it’s hit song “This is Me” and it got me thinking about boundaries…
As a Dialectical Behavioral Therapist, I work with clients who often experience a history of trauma. One of the key elements of trauma is that one’s boundaries have been violated. When our boundaries have not been protected and in an effort to survive, we learn to build fortresses and moats around our hearts ensuring no one dare enter with 100 yards often leading to lives of loneliness or isolation. Or to the other extreme, we let people come into our lives without so much as a security clearance, which in turn can lead to re-victimization and re-traumatization. Or perhaps we oscillate between the two extremes, the push and pull response. Furthermore, boundary violations lead to difficulty setting limits (i.e. saying no or ask for help) and difficulties forming a sense of who we are and being able to distinguish our wants and needs versus others.
We at the DBT Center of Orange County believe in contributing & giving back! Contributing is a Distress Tolerance skill that we teach. It is a Distract Skill in Wise Mind ACCEPTS. Distracting methods work by reducing contact with what is currently causing a person distress.ACCEPTS is an acronym to help remember possible ways to distract yourself including: Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing Away, Thoughts and Sensations.
Posted by Nora Josephson, MA, RYT, LPC in News
Self-care is a buzz word in today’s popular culture. We are hearing about it at work, in blogs, during therapy and in conversations with friends. Coworkers, family, friends and therapists ask, “Are you taking care of yourself? What are you doing to get a break from life? Are you making time for self-care?” How many of us focus our ‘well-being’ around pleasing others while neglecting to take care of our own needs.
Here at the DBT Center of Orange County we believe that taking care of yourself – mind, body and soul -- is of the utmost importance. The major goal of DBT is to build a Life Worth Living! Self-care is an important piece of that puzzle.
Posted by Cindy Finch, LCSW in News
Much has been said, these days, about the practice of Adulting. This term is used to refer to what The Oxford Dictionary calls, “The practice of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult, especially the accomplishment of mundane but necessary tasks.”
As a therapist, I often meet with parents of these young adults who are very worried about their kids. They tell of grown children who are still living with them, working only part time or not at all, not paying rent or doing chores and even relying on parents to cook for them, wake them up in the morning, make their appointments and pay their bills. Some parents say their kids use drugs in their home and even control the entire family’s moods with their poor behaviors. What’s a family to do?
Posted by admin in News
Newport Beach, CA – March 13, 2018 – DBT Center of Orange County today announced it has earned The Joint Commission’s Gold Seal of Approval® for Behavioral Health Care Accreditation by demonstrating continuous compliance with its performance standards. The Gold Seal of Approval® is a symbol of quality that reflects an organization’s commitment to providing safe and effective care.
DBT Center of Orange County underwent a rigorous onsite survey in February 2018. During the review, compliance with behavioral health care standards related to several areas, including care, treatment, and services; environment of care; leadership; and screening procedures for the early detection of imminent harm was evaluated. Onsite observations and interviews also were conducted.
Posted by admin in News
The holidays can be a stressful time for all of us! Discover ways to cope during the holidays using DBT skills including: Cope Ahead, PLEASE and Effective Rethinking and Paired Relaxation by reading below!
Cope Ahead is such an important skill to prepare ahead of time for stressful situations. Read through the following instructions to prepare for, imagine and practice coping effectively with a stressful situation.
Most importantly, the DBT Center of Orange County wishes you a Peaceful and Joyful Holiday Season.
Posted by Kathy Du Vernet, M.S., CYT, E-RYT 500 in Benefits of DBT
A new film on UPLIFT, The Science Behind Yoga, interviews a variety of experts to discuss the scientific evidence showing the many benefits of yoga. This, along with other research on yoga and meditation, is good news for yogis to share with their more skeptical friends who often want to see “hard evidence.” As yogis, we have personally experienced and touted the benefits of our practices, and now modern science is reporting significant evidence supporting many of our claims!
Yoga and meditation can help re-shape the brain as well as reduce stress and anxiety
According to neuroscientists, as individuals continue to meditate and engage in meditative body-mind practices such as yoga, the brain actually begins to reshape itself. Studies have shown that yoga and other mindfulness-based practices can reduce stress and anxiety, and improve physical health by activating the parasympathetic nervous system which allows an individual to relax. Over 160 of these studies have shown that meditation had a positive effect on improving anxiety and stress, and research with people who had clinical levels of anxiety found that 90% of those studied experienced significant reductions in their anxiety.
Posted by Kathy Purdy MFTI in Benefits of DBT
An important aspect of Dialectical Behavior Therapy is recognizing self-criticism and judgments and cultivating self-compassion. This is something most of our patients work on every day. Recently, an article in the Huffington Post made a convincing case for why self-compassion is more effective and helpful than self-criticism.
Additionally, Dr. Kristin Neff, who is widely recognized as one of the world’s leading experts on self-compassion, speaks about three core components of self-compassion. I hope this article and YouTube video help to motivate us all to question how effective our own self-criticism has been and to consider including more self-compassion into our lives.
Posted by Cindy Finch, LCSW in Benefits of DBT
If you want to gain valuable tools to grow a strong marriage, save a failing one, and possibly avoid a divorce, then read on as I share what couples can do to make or break their relationships...
Don’t Grow Up Emotionally
If you’re not going to grow up, you will wreck your marriage. In a therapy session, if one partner says, “I feel like I have an extra child because I am married to this person,” it is likely that this partner has failed to grow up emotionally. You’d be surprised to know how many highly successful adults in the business and professional world are actually emotional infants. Emotionally immature people:
- Look for others to take care of them
- Take disagreements personally
- Are only happy when things go their way
- Quickly unravel when disappointment, stress, or tragedy enter the picture
Posted by Dana Conley, M.A., C.Ht. in Benefits of DBT
"Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. It means to be in the midst of these things and still be calm in your heart." (Unknown)
The unknown individual, to whom this quote is attributed, had a great perspective about what "please" means. I imagine they knew how to get to that place of peace within them and what it meant to be calm in their heart.
What does it mean to be calm in your heart? How do you get to that place within you amidst the noise, trouble, and hard work around you?
To me, being calm in my heart is an experience of INNER PEACE. When I am calm in my heart, I feel peaceful. It also means to be OK with what is... That means being OK with what is happening around me, what is happening to me, and what is happening within me – and doing so without judging anything as bad or wrong, noisy or hard.