Books We Recommend for Reading

For Couples

High Conflict Couple. A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation.

Dr. Alan Fruzzetti. 2006.

What Makes Love Last? How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal, Dr. John Gottman and Nan Silver. 2013.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert.  Dr. John Gottman and Nan Silver. 2015.

Will I Ever Be Free of You? How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist and Heal Your Family.  Dr. Karyl McBride. 2016

Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking about Human Interactions, Second Edition.

Roberta M. Gilbert. 2017.

I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships. Michael S. Sorenson.2017.

For Parents

Parenting is one of the most challenging and difficult roles you will ever undertake.  The selection of books we recommend are some of our favs when it comes to managing your kids’ emotions – as well as your own! 

Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions: Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Help Your Child Regulate Emotional Outbursts and Aggressive Behaviors. Pat Harvey and Jeanine Penzo. 2009.

Sitting Still Like A Frog: Mindfulness Exercises for Kids (And Their Parents). Eline Snel and Myla Kabat-Zinn. 2013.  You can find this book in our waiting room!

Zen Parent Made Easy: How to Teach your Kids Discipline and Responsibility without Yelling and Power Struggles.  Jenny Quinn. 2014.

Balancing the Parenting Styles of Father and Mother: How to Handle Different Parenting Styles in Your Family and Become a Fantastic Parent.   James Wilson. 2014.

Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family. Carla Naumburg. 2015.

The Mindful Teen: Powerful Skills to Help You Handle Stress One Moment at a Time.

Dzung. X. Vo MD. 2015.

Parenting a Teen Who Has Intense Emotions: DBT Skills to Help Your Teen Navigate Emotional and Behavioral Challenges.  Pat Harvey and Britt Rathbone. 2015.

Relationship Skills 101 for Teens: Your Guide to Dealing with Daily Drama, Stress, and Difficult Emotions Using DBT. Sheri Van Dijk MSW. 2015.

I Would, but my Damn Mind won’t let me: A Teen’s Guide to Controlling Their Thoughts and Feelings. Jacqui Letran. 2016. (This book won the Literary Classics’ Lumen Gold Medal Award for Young Adult Non-Fiction).=

The Self-Compassion Workbook for Teens: Mindfulness and Compassion Skills to Overcome Self-Criticism and Embrace Who You Are. Karen Bluth and Kristin Neff. 2017.

When Your Daughter has BPD, Essential Skills to Help Families Manage Borderline Personality Disorder. Daniel S. Lobel. 2017.

For Mindfulness

Wherever You Go, There You Are. Jon Kabat-Zinn PhD. 2009.

Dr. Kabat-Zinn, a pioneer in the field of mindfulness-based stress reduction, brought meditation into mainstream medicine largely by writing this classic little book.  https://experiencelife.com/article/wherever-you-go-there-you-are.

Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Awakening. Joseph Goldstein. 2013.

Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder – Relieve Your Suffering Using the Core Skill of Dialectical Behavior Therapy.  Dr. Blaise Aguirre and Dr. Gillian Galen. 2013.

10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works–A True Story. Dan Harris. 2014.

Mindful Compassion: How the Science of Compassion Can Help You Understand Your Emotions, Live in the Present, and Connect Deeply with Others.  Dr. Paul Gilbert.  2014.

Little Book of Mindfulness: 10 Minutes a Day to Less Stress, More Peace. Dr. Patricia Collard. 2014.

The Here-And-Now Habit: How Mindfulness Can Help You Break Unhealthy Habits Once and For All.

Dr. Hugh G. Byrne and Dr. Tara Brach. 2016.

Practices for Growing Up Mindful: Guided Meditations and Simple Exercises for Children, Teens, and Families. Christopher Willard PsyD. 2016.

For Borderline Personality Disorder

The Buddha & The Borderline: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Buddhism, & Online Dating.  Kiera Van Gelder. 2010.

I Hate You – Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

Kreisman and H. Straus. 2010.

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking your Life Back when Someone You Care About has Borderline Personality Disorder.  P Mason and R. Kreger. 2010.

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change 1st Edition.

Valerie Porr. 2010.

Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship.  Shari Y. Manning and Marsha M. Linehan. 2011.

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Your Life. Margalis Fielstad. 2014.

Borderline Personality Disorder: The Ultimate Practical Approach to Understanding, Coping, and Living with Borderline Personality Disorder.  Emily Laven. 2014.

Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents: What to Do When Your Teen has BPD.  A Complete Guide for Families.  Dr. Blaise Aguirre. 2014.

This is Not the End. Conversations on Borderline Personality Disorder. Edited by Tabitha Martin. 2016. (This is a collection of experiences from individuals dealing with BPD).

Beyond Borderline: True Stories of Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. John G. Gunderson and Perry D. Hoffman. 2016.

Stronger Than BPD: The Girl’s Guide to Taking Control of Intense Emotions, Drama, and Chaos Using DBT. Debbie Corso BSc (author) and Gillian Galen PsyD (foreward) 2017.

Difficulty Controlling Emotions

Calming the Emotional Storm: Using Dialectical Behavioral Skills to Manage your Emotions and Balance Your LifeSheri Van Dijk MSW. 2012.

For Inspiration

Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone.

Brene Brown. 2017.

How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate. Jennifer Taitz, 2018.